Taming the Chaos in my Mind
By all accounts, Alia’s got it going on.
With her MBA from Columbia, twin 1-year-olds at home, and visionary leadership as the director of alumni affairs at the Relay Graduate School of Education in New York City, she’s a woman who’s making it work.
But when Alia joined us at Bossed Up Bootcamp, she was treading water. After the first year as a working mom, she looked up and realized that she felt unfocused and unsure if she was getting at the heart of her true purpose. She hoped the “chaos in [her] head” could be tamed and turned into something productive.
Alia blew me away the day after Bootcamp with an email that went like this:
“This morning, I went for a run for the first time in years. YEARS! Less than 24 hours after the weekend ended, I’m already seeing the effects of Bootcamp in my life. I’m feeling so energized about what I learned this weekend, and am excited to begin putting it into practice.”
This boss moves fast – and it’s been amazing to see what’s happened since she started devoting her drive and energy to crafting the sustainable career and life she wants.
I simply had to catch up with Alia to hear more about how she’s living and working #likeaboss. Here’s what she had to share:
Emilie: Hey Alia! So excited to hear from you, boss. It’s only been a month since Bootcamp, but it sounds like an awful lot has shifted for you, huh?
Alia: I know – I can’t believe it’s only been a month! It feels like so much has happened since then.
EA: So tell me, why did you come to Bootcamp to begin with?
A: I consider myself lucky. I love my organization and the work I do, but I just felt like I haven’t been bringing my best to it. I can’t pinpoint when it happened, but my confidence had taken a hit over the years and I found myself less likely to assert my vision and more likely to just go with the flow and accept the way things as they are – as they’ve always been. I felt like there was chaos brewing in my mind, and hoped that Bootcamp could help me turn it into something I could work with.
Honestly, I wasn’t sure what I was in for when I arrived at Bootcamp, but the weekend WAY exceeded my expectations.
EA: So what’s shifted for you since then?
A: People at work noticed right away that I’m leading with confidence now, and putting forth my vision in a more engaged and assertive way. It feels so good to be more connected to my purpose professionally.
At home, I have become more intentional with how I spend my time with my husband and twin babies. The love and relationships module at Bootcamp transformed that way my husband and I are showing each other we care for one another, and has led to a newfound clarity there. I’ve found myself becoming even more patient and mindful with the twins, too, really appreciating every moment we have together.
I have this little ritual of writing a letter to my kids every day since I’ve gone back to work full time, and it grounds me, even though I know they won’t be able to read them for years.
EA: That’s so wonderful to hear, Alia. And how about taking time just for yourself?
A: Totally! Following the pilates class we took together at Bootcamp, I started exercising more regularly, and really – that changes everything. I feel so much more energized and like I’m walking my purpose each day.
I’m also building out a strategy for launching my own initiative. I want to create a safe space specifically for empowering young black girls. It’s part of the spiritual wellness goals I set for myself at Bootcamp and it’s something I’m even more motivated to see in our culture, now that my daughter is living in it.
EA: Wow, I’m so impressed by all this progress you’ve made – and so quickly!
A: Me too, Emilie! I am so grateful my organization saw the value in this and sponsored me, because I can say with confidence that not only am I feeling more aligned with and in control of my future, I’m energized, organized, and focused unlike ever before. The result has been a better me in all arenas — at work, at home, and in my relationships with loved ones and most of all, with myself.