My Boss Congratulated Me for Negotiating

This post is part of a series recognizing the achievements of Bossed Up’s Boss of the Year nominees, in celebration of Bossed Up’s official #LaunchLikeABoss Launch Party July 24.

On average, only 7% of women attempt to negotiate their salary.

Gray, a 27-year-old woman in Cambridge, MA, recalled this statistic from Bossed Up Bootcamp as she weighed an exciting new offer.

In the weeks following Bootcamp, she was able to have a difficult conversation with her supervisor, in which she described why she was thinking of leaving her job. Gray started looking for new opportunities without feeling anxious or overwhelmed, as she had been before, and she reached out to her fellow ‘bosses’ online for support and encouragement.

When she got the offer, she put on her best assertive voice and negotiated her salary for the first time ever. She negotiated for 5.5% more than their starting offer, almost 9% more than she was making at her last job. At the end of the negotiation, the CEO of her new company shook her hand and said, “Well done for asking.”

Gray is happy to report that “Bootcamp will pay for itself within a month at my new job.”

The reality is, the negotiation table can be a minefield for women! Studies show that the kind of assertive communication required in negotiation is inversely correlated with likability for women. Our male counterparts, on the other hand, never have to contend with this double-bind.

Linda Babcock, the nation’s preeminent researcher on women and negotiation, found that while yes, a large gender gap persists in terms of who attempts to negotiate (57% of men and only 7% of women), among those who did, they saw an average bump in salary of 7%.

We here at Bossed Up believe that it’s important to know our worth and dare to ask for more. You must choose to be among the 7% of women attempting to negotiate in order to be among those seeing an average 7% increase in salary.

We’re optimistic that there are more supervisors like Gray’s out there – congratulating women who dare to ask for more. The world is changing, but only if we help it along by following her example and deciding to negotiate.

“Anything worth doing is worth doing well,” Gray says, quoting her father. When we consider it our job to negotiate like a boss, we can all find the courage to do our part.

“The salary increase is awesome,” says Gray, “but this community of supportive women, and the training we all received to enable us to be bosses, is worth far more than money.”

We’re thrilled to acknowledge Gray as one of our rockstar nominees for Boss of the Year! Show your support for Gray with your vote for Boss of the Year on Twitter and Facebook: simply mention “Gray” with the hashtag #LaunchLikeABoss to cast your vote, and join us to celebrate all our nominees and the many ways they’re launching their Bossed Up lives on Thursday July 24.


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