When Everyone Else “Has it Together” Except You…
Maggie’s life doesn’t look bad at all. She works as a Senior Associate in planning and evaluation at the Pew Charitable Trusts, is in a loving, long-term relationship, and has been working and living here in DC for about 6 years. So why did she feel so lost? Why did she sometimes feel so disconnected and uninspired?
If you’ve ever felt like everyone else around you “has it together” but you just can’t seem to feel the same satisfaction, today’s feature is the one for you.
Emilie: This has been a big growth year for you, tell us about it.
Maggie: These past few months have been a bit strange, to be honest. It seems like everywhere I turn, my peers are settling down or chasing their dreams in some form or another. Everyone’s life seems so “together,” but I didn’t feel that way at all. Now, don’t get me wrong – my life’s not bad! I’m fortunate to be with a great organization and in a wonderful relationship, but I still found myself feeling lost.
I felt like I was just going through the motions, and I’d lost touch with my passions and ultimate purpose in life. I knew I needed to make some changes, take back control, and I wanted to feel excited about life again.
E: I totally get that. What caused that shift?
M: Earlier this year, I was on a plane on my way to a friend’s wedding with my boyfriend, and I basically had a meltdown. I started questioning everything I was doing with my life. Is this it? I felt like all my choices were keeping me content and comfortable – but would they lead to happiness on a grand scale? Or was I chasing a fantasy? While I absolutely adore my boyfriend, I just felt disconnected from my passion and purpose, and it freaked me out.
E: I hear stories like that so often, you wouldn’t believe it. It’s such a hard but important part of the process! So what happened from there?
M: Well, I had already been a member of the Women’s Information Network, but I wasn’t as active and social as I wish I had been. I started to get more involved with the organization, and then I heard you speak at an event they hosted, and decided to attend Bossed Up Bootcamp. I knew I needed a push to reset my goals and align my life more with my core values.
E: YAS! So did it help?
M: Oh yea. Bossed Up Bootcamp really helped me get more connected with myself and like-minded women who were also wrestling with these big questions. It was SO encouraging to meet ambitious, smart, hard-working women who, like me, felt lost or like something was missing. It was powerful and refreshing to have a community of women I could be so open with and feel so supported by! Afterwards, I started working with a coach who was one of the featured trainers at Bootcamp, and I’ve slowly but surely started implementing my plans to better align what I do on the day-to-day with what will keep me sustainably satisfied over the long-term. I’ve become much more involved in advocacy around women’s reproductive health issues, and I am volunteering through Planned Parenthood of Metropolitan Washington and the DC Abortion Fund. I even joined District Karaoke as a way to have some fun and meet new people in the city. It’s crazy how these incremental steps have had a huge impact on my overall satisfaction with where I feel my life is headed.
E: That’s beautiful, Maggie. I’m so happy to hear it, boss! Do you have any advice for someone going through the same thing you did?
M: Ask for help. Seriously. I know it’s hard to do when you’re feeling uncertain and vulnerable, but it’s those moments when you need community most. Find a community that encourages and inspires you.